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Denial is Not a River in Egypt Folks

by Bobby Blair
October 24, 2018

 

It's everywhere -- booze, drugs, illegal and prescribed, and it's pervasive. A recent article on Fox News Insider (February 16th) asked "Is it the media's responsibility to talk about addiction? Bill O'Reilly Spars with Matt Lauer on Whitney Houston". I don't ever recall any stories here at the HollistonReporter.com delving into the subject of addiction. We all know someone with a booze or drug problem, but rarely does the subject come up unless that addiction is associated with a high profile personality such as Houston or a politician or maybe the alcoholic who has been arrested for his seventh DWI.



Before Houston was even buried, the Holliston ambulance was called to my neighborhood for a possible drug overdose three nights ago. Maybe talking about drug or alcohol addiction is simply too personal or could it just be denial. Sigmund Freud labeled denial as defense mechanism in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and regrets it instead insisting that it is not true, despite what may be overwhelming evidence. As I write here on Monday just past noon, the ambulance is once again headed to an overdose, this time to a Concord Street residence.

I can identify each time I hear of an incident relating to booze and drugs. In 2002 three good friends died as a result of drinking. All three were in the prime of their lives, and all three refused to help themselves. One of the friends on his death bed at Framingham Union Hospital told me that the cause of his illness was the eating of two bad hot dogs at a local establishment. Denial at its best to be certain. Somehow these three individuals for whatever reasons were either unwilling or unable to come to grips with the devil that killed them. Had these friends had cancer, I often wonder if they would have sought help. Do we as a society place such a stigmatization on those with an alcohol problem or drug addiction that it makes it untenable for those suffering to seek help?

I share a kinship of sorts with those three friends who died in 2002. I have their disease. Unlike my friends, my addiction surfaced at an earlier age. Entering my first rehab at 37, it would take many more rehabs and ten years before I surrendered. I had not intended to become an alcoholic, but somehow I just couldn't or wouldn't accept the fact. In February of 1997 after a stay at the Brockton V.A. Hospital I finally relented to my addiction which was killing me. Death at this point in my life looked like a very good option. Gone were any hopes and dreams of the future and each day was a struggle just to feed my habit. A self-contained world of isolation seemed to be my only reality.

I don't have any answers why I put down the booze. I can only guess that God had something to do with it. And why you might ask am I writing publicly that I'm a recovering alcoholic? Many people suffering an addiction problem do so thinking they are unique and the only ones feeling this way. If I've helped just one person by writing this article and the disclosure that I'm a recovering alcoholic, all will have not been in vain. While the monkey has been lifted off my back for some 15 years now, the circus is still in town.  I'm a recovering alcoholic suffering from alcoholism, not alcoholwasism. For me it's the first drink that gets me drunk not the seventh or twentieth. That first drink sets up a physical and mental compulsion that puts all bets off the table. Put another way, nobody that was ever killed by a train was killed by the caboose. It was in fact my gift of desperation that helped me get sober. Yes, I do attend those meetings for people who have addictions quite frequently. You'd take your high blood pressure medicine as the doctor ordered, wouldn't you?

Alcoholics Anonymous: http://www.aaboston.org/

Narcotics Anonymous:  http://www.nerna.org/

Holliston Youth and Family Services: http://www.townofholliston.us/youth.htm

Genesis Counseling Services, Framingham: http://www.treatmentcentersdirectory.com/Massachusetts/Framingham/genesis-counseling-services-inc-15434

Suicide & Crisis Hotline:http://suicidehotlines.com/massachusetts.html

God - As close as your knees are to the floor

For those who just need a friendly ear, you can call me at 508-429-6763.

Publishers note: I wrote this article some six years ago. Several people asked me for help and both are sober to this day. With a recent spat of people needing the services of the Holliston ambulance including a 16 year old girl and a 25 year old that died from an overdose this message is worth repeating.

 

 

 

 

 

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Comments (3)

It would be nice if people who read the Reporter could be reminded of the 12 step life on a regular basis. If it could be anonymous as the program asks for Anonymity. It might save a life. I am talking about slogans and a 12 step reminders nothing heavy BUT SOMETHING TO REMIND SOMEONE OH I THINK I WILL GO TO A MEETING TODAY

Jean Morrissey

- jean morrissey | 10/25/18 10:28 AM

Bobby, ironically, your curse became a gift to Holliston, and beyond. You got the genie out of the bottle, and Holliston has benefited ever since. Thanks.

- John Losch | 10/24/18 8:29 PM

Great article Bobby! Loved it when you wrote it a few years and loved reading it again today. Thank you for all you do :)

- Gina Stucchi | 10/24/18 3:08 PM

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