As the school year begins, parents and caregivers have a renewed chance to support teens through the challenges of adolescence. Events like dances, sports, and general gathering can bring both excitement and pressure—especially when it comes to substance use and mental health. While these years come with greater independence, your influence remains strong.
Teens whose parents have open, honest conversations about alcohol and drugs are significantly less likely to use them. They may not always show it, but teens value your guidance and clear expectations. Our data has shown time and time again that one of the number one protective factors (something that prevents them from using substances) of teens in Holliston is their parents, specifically, not wanting to disappoint them.
It’s never too early—or too late—to start the conversation. Keep it ongoing, focus on listening, and create a space where your teen feels heard and supported. This school year, take the opportunity to stay connected—and turn to HDAAC’s resources to help guide the way.
Check out our “Recipe For Raising Resilient Teens” card on our parent resources webpage.
Celebrating Safely: School Events
Homecoming games and dances bring excitement, but they may also bring peer pressure. These events mark growing independence but also pose safety risks. Families can help by preparing ahead.
- Set Clear, Calm Expectations: Consistent boundaries around substances help teens feel safe. It’s not about control—it’s about care.
- Encourage Honest Dialogue: Ask open, nonjudgmental questions like:
- “What are you looking forward to at homecoming?”
- “What do your friends say about parties?”
- “Have you ever felt pressured to do something?”
- Make a Safety Plan: Discuss curfews, rides, and post-event plans. Create a “safe word” or emoji they can use if they need help—no questions asked.
- Connect With Other Parents: Working together sends a strong message: fun doesn’t need to involve alcohol or drugs.
- Reinforce That Safety Is Strength: Promote sticking with trusted friends, charged phones, and using the buddy system. Being safe means being smart.
Everyday Ways to Protect and Connect
Prevention doesn’t have to be a single, serious talk. It’s best when it’s woven into everyday life—small check-ins, shared meals, honest chats on car rides. Here are simple, compassionate steps that make a big difference:
Family Strategies for Prevention:
- Start Conversations Early – Don’t wait for a crisis. Open the door while things are going well.
- Stay Involved – Know your child’s friends, interests, and routines.
- Set Boundaries With Love – Be consistent, fair, and clear.
- Encourage Positive Peer Connections – Teens with supportive friendships are more likely to make healthy choices.
- Watch for Changes – Mood swings, social withdrawal, and academic shifts may signal something deeper.
- Stay Curious, Not Critical – If you suspect something, lead with concern, not punishment.
More prevention tips for your middle school child or your high school child.
Recognizing the Signs and Getting Help
Even with love and care, a child may still struggle—with substance use, stress, anxiety, or depression. It’s not a reflection of failure, but a signal that they need support.
Common Warning Signs:
- Drastic mood or behavior changes
- Loss of interest in hobbies or friendships
- Decline in grades or school attendance
- Secretive behavior or sudden isolation
- Physical symptoms: changes in sleep, appetite, or appearance
Trust your instincts. You don’t have to figure it out alone—there are resources and support systems ready to help.
Holliston Youth & Family Services (HYFS) Resources
Provided by HYFS, these tools help you support your child’s well-being, start caring conversations, and find help when it’s needed:
- Parenting Guide: Understanding Anxiety
- Parenting Guide: Understanding Depression
- Tip Sheet Understanding ADHD
As the school year unfolds, your presence, guidance, and support remain some of the most powerful tools in helping your child stay safe, healthy, and confident. With open conversations, clear expectations, and the right resources, we can face challenges together—and ensure every young person feels seen, valued, and supported.
Join us for Tough Topics: Parent Meet Up
September’s topic is “Back to School” on Monday, Sept. 15th from 10-11 AM at the Bird & Bear Collective in downtown Holliston. Help us spread the word and register today: https://forms.gle/5iBkackd623p7jiQA