The holiday season can bring both joy and challenges. As part of Depression Awareness Month, we spoke with two Holliston parents, Barbara Agen Ryan and Karen Jewett, about their strategies for managing holiday stress, supporting loved ones, and fostering meaningful connections.
Our interviewer, Grace Burgett, is HDAAC’s intern, and a 2023 graduate from Holliston High School.
Grace: What are some of your family’s favorite holiday traditions that you look forward to each year?
Barb’s family emphasizes togetherness, often incorporating diverse foods from different backgrounds. “We try to do things that are non-screen related, like board games, walks, or attending movies together,” she shared. Their traditions also include giving back, participating in food drives, and volunteering.
Karen’s traditions center on gratitude and family time. She described a cherished Thanksgiving tradition: “We go around the table after saying Grace, and each person shares something they’re thankful for. It always brings us back to what really matters.” In December, Karen enjoys a family Christmas Eve gathering with over 50 relatives and a Mass at her church. “It’s a great reminder of how important family is,” she added.
Grace: What are some strategies or routines you find helpful for managing holiday-related stress?
Both moms emphasize the importance of self-care routines. Barb prioritizes sleep and physical activity. “Even if it’s just a 10-minute walk or a 5-minute meditation, taking a break is crucial,” she said. “Deep breaths can reset the body and mind.” She also stresses the value of maintaining routine during the holidays.
For Karen, starting each day with a walk and yoga helps set a peaceful tone. “That time outside, especially in the mornings, helps me feel grounded,” she said. She also makes time to connect with her children, whether through quick texts or calls. “I always end every conversation with ‘I love you,’” she noted, explaining how important it is to reaffirm family connections.
Grace: What steps do you take to create a supportive environment for family members who might be feeling down?
Barb shared that creating a supportive environment often requires difficult conversations. “I’ve learned that sometimes you need to ask the tough questions,” she said. “If I was in their shoes, I’d want someone to ask, ‘Do you need help?’” She also highlighted the importance of being present, whether through sitting in silence or offering a helping hand.
Karen echoed Barb’s sentiment about the power of being there for family members. “I try to stay in contact with my kids, especially when I know they’re struggling,” she explained. “Even if I can’t talk long, I want them to know I’m always available.”
Grace: What resources or support systems do you rely on during the holiday season?
For Barb, the key resources are her faith, family, and friends. “As much as I’m there for others, I know I can’t do it alone,” she said. “Asking for help is important, and I’ve only recently gotten better at it.” She added that taking time for herself is crucial to maintaining balance.
Karen leans on her faith, as well as her family and friends. “I rely on my morning routine to help me feel organized and grounded,” she said. She also finds comfort in her work with the Holliston Food Pantry, which provides a sense of purpose and community support.
Grace: Are there any local events or activities you would recommend for families of all ages?
Barb suggested events that HDAAC and Holliston Youth and Family Services promote, and connecting with nature on the Rail Trail. “Nature is always there, and it’s free,” she said, adding that it’s important to slow down and focus on what really matters during the season.
Karen recommends local events like the Living Nativity in Sherborn, the Holiday Stroll, and Breakfast with Santa. “There are so many free activities that bring families together,” she noted. “It’s about fostering those moments of connection.”
Conclusion
For both Barb and Karen, the holidays are about connection—whether it’s with family, faith, or community. By prioritizing self-care, staying grounded in routines, and reaching out for support when needed, families can navigate the season with more joy and less stress.
If you are struggling with depression, any mental health concern, or substances, please contact HDAAC by emailing Zoe Moreau at moreauz@holliston.k12.ma.us or calling 508-429-0620 ex. 3.
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